Making Up The Difference
We know we can be, do and have anything we can imagine in our minds. Sometimes it requires a little patience to show up outside our imagination...and sometimes this is where 'making up the difference' comes in to play. For instance, when someone wants to buy something (e.g. car, house) and don't have the cash to pay for it, they usually get a loan from a bank to 'make up the difference'.
When we go to the store and see something we like, we look in purses and see if there's enough money to buy it. If not, we ask parents to make up the difference. They say, "yes I'll be happy to", and then usually explains how. They either do it right then, the next time we come to the store...or they say we get to come up with more money ourselves to get closer to what the store wants for it and then they can do it. They never limit themselves by saying, "I can't afford it".
When we wanted to buy our first house we had a few hundred dollars in the bank, so we asked our parents to 'make up the difference'. It worked out great! We made a lot of money with that house, and now we're showing other kids how to do it too! We love it when people involve us or share how they did something successful. We believe the competitive way of making money is a caveman's way of thinking. Making money in a synergistic way (showing and doing it with others) is the most fun and rewarding.
When we go to the store and see something we like, we look in purses and see if there's enough money to buy it. If not, we ask parents to make up the difference. They say, "yes I'll be happy to", and then usually explains how. They either do it right then, the next time we come to the store...or they say we get to come up with more money ourselves to get closer to what the store wants for it and then they can do it. They never limit themselves by saying, "I can't afford it".
When we wanted to buy our first house we had a few hundred dollars in the bank, so we asked our parents to 'make up the difference'. It worked out great! We made a lot of money with that house, and now we're showing other kids how to do it too! We love it when people involve us or share how they did something successful. We believe the competitive way of making money is a caveman's way of thinking. Making money in a synergistic way (showing and doing it with others) is the most fun and rewarding.
Becoming a Yes Mom
We often remind our parents that "the answer is always yes" for us :-) It assists mom and dad to speak positively and we understand that answering yes sometimes means telling us how and when what we are asking for can really happen for us. For instance, let's say we're about to have dinner and we ask mom for some of the apple pie on the counter. She might say, "yes, just as soon as you finish your dinner"...or "yes, you may have some tomorrow" if she is not ok with us having it right then.
Parents can purposefully make a change in their speech habits, according to Mimi Doe, author of 10 Principles for Spiritual Parenting. 'If you use negative words - catch yourself. Count how many times you say don't to your children. One study estimates that the average child hears the word no or don't over 148,000 times while growing up, compared with just a few thousand yes messages,' she says. Doe adds that negative words can push the spirit out of any situation. 'Of course we need to use firm words at times and alert our child to emergencies and dangers, but the habitual no's begin to eat away at a child's spirit. Moms (and dads) should say yes as much as possible, without compromising your limits. We often snap a no out of habit,' she says." Source: Babyzone, "Becoming a Yes Mom"
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Human Brain Likes Yes
"Do you realize that the brain cannot process a negative command or statement? If you say to your child 'be careful, don't spill your milk' as they carry the glass full of milk across the kitchen the child has to actually think of spilling the milk so that it can take the necessary action not to do it. We tend to get what we focus on and so by the child thinking of spilling milk that is often what tends to happen which normally results in a loud 'But I told you not to spill that milk'. So the moral of the story is ask for what you want, not what you don't want."
Source: Happy Child, "Negative Statements"
"A UCLA survey from a few years ago reported that the average one year old child hears the word, No!, more than 400 times a day! You may, at first, think this must be an exaggeration but consider this...when we tell a toddler No! we usually say, No, no, no!. That's three times in three seconds! If that child is particularly active, perhaps it's true...perhaps that child really does hear NO mega times a day. And, although it's a good thing that they come to understand NO early (so that they can live to celebrate a second birthday!),...
...the bottom line is that toddlers, from all cultures and across all time lines, learn what to do by constantly being told what not to do. Then they grow up. They go to work...and the pattern of speaking and learning is set from the earliest of days. So, by the time they hit the workforce, even if they are very positive, energetic and optimistically focused individuals, they are probably speaking with negative language throughout each and everyday without even knowing it!...It's always more powerful, influential, and persuasive to say what you do want rather than what you don't want." |